The pregnancy

‘I was diagnosed officially with gestational diabetes’

Realising something was wrong

‘It’s not going to work out, basically’

Being told your baby has died

‘She was all nonchalant, it was just not a big deal’

The time before giving birth

‘For a few hours we actually forgot what was happening to us’

The birth

‘They put Alexis in a bucket’

Spending time with your baby

‘It was our first experience of a family’

Being back at home

‘I had to face everything, pack everything away’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘I don’t want the baby to be cut open’

The funeral

‘I’d never actually gone to a funeral’

Relating to family and friends

‘It happens and that’s it’


‘Your patience is zero, your tolerance is zero, so it does make it hard’

Remembering your baby

‘Any function or festival we will do something to remember him ’

Pregnancy after loss

‘There was no chance for me’

Insights and advice

‘I took to my Instagram account to start sharing things’