The pregnancy

‘We genuinely thought, he’s just small. People have small babies’

Realising something was wrong

‘He wasn’t moving and that was because he was poorly’

Being told your baby has died

‘She was all nonchalant, it was just not a big deal’

The time before giving birth

‘You don't really know what's happening’

The birth

‘I had no idea what to expect’

Spending time with your baby

‘All I heard was babies crying all around me’

Being back at home

‘I’ve blanked it out from my mind really’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘We needed to make sense of it’

The funeral

‘The toughest part was going to pick up his ashes’

Relating to family and friends

‘We had to be comfortable without Leo’


‘I miss her’

Remembering your baby

‘Couldn’t imagine that she was down there’

Pregnancy after loss

‘I can't imagine telling anyone now’

Insights and advice

‘Nobody checked on my mental state’