The pregnancy

‘We had no worries or past history’

Realising something was wrong

‘My waters broke and they were coloured’

Being told your baby has died

They were obviously looking for his heartbeat’

The time before giving birth

‘This lady knows what we’re coming in for, why are we waiting so long?’

The birth

‘They put Alexis in a bucket’

Spending time with your baby

‘I was so happy that it was a girl’

Being back at home

‘You feel inferior’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘It just didn’t make sense what happened’

The funeral

‘I’d never actually gone to a funeral’

Relating to family and friends

‘They'd all been part of the whole journey.


‘Women are different to men’

Remembering your baby

‘I don’t feel like I need to scatter them’

Pregnancy after loss

‘Once I was pregnant that's when the worry started’

Insights and advice

‘I believe one day I’m going to see him again’