The pregnancy

‘We were under high-risk care because we were IVF’

Realising something was wrong

‘I posted a topic saying my baby’s not moved today can anyone relate?’

Being told your baby has died

‘That sort of gives you a glimmer of hope’

The time before giving birth

‘She told us to take lots of pictures’

The birth

‘I still remember the sensation of him coming out’

Spending time with your baby

‘All I heard was babies crying all around me’

Being back at home

‘You feel inferior’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘Every post-mortem is research’

The funeral

‘It was hard making all these decisions’

Relating to family and friends

‘They'd all been part of the whole journey.


‘You can’t resent that they’re not getting over it’

Remembering your baby

‘I don’t feel like I need to scatter them’

Pregnancy after loss

‘I took it a lot more seriously’

Insights and advice

I might get upset, but I’d be happy someone had asked about it