The pregnancy

‘It was very textbook’

Realising something was wrong

‘I think I knew that he’d probably died’

Being told your baby has died

They were obviously looking for his heartbeat’

The time before giving birth

‘How do we tell someone over the phone like that?’

The birth

‘I couldn’t believe the coldness’

Spending time with your baby

‘That was the last time we're going to be a family’

Being back at home

‘I’ve blanked it out from my mind really’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘Every post-mortem is research’

The funeral

‘I just couldn’t visualise it’

Relating to family and friends

‘It was as though I had never had her’


‘It does help to be able to grieve fully’

Remembering your baby

‘I've got to do something completely different’

Pregnancy after loss

‘This one being small feels like the first time all over again’

Insights and advice

‘There will come a point when you will remember that child happily’