The pregnancy

‘The baby wasn’t as active as Claire had been’

Realising something was wrong

‘The scan showed there was no fetal heartbeat’

Being told your baby has died

‘I felt I had to stay focused at what needed to be done’

The time before giving birth

‘How do we tell someone over the phone like that?’

The birth

‘I had no idea what to expect’

Spending time with your baby

‘You can keep him in the room overnight’

Being back at home

‘You’ll need one another now more than ever’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘We agreed for something called a visual post-mortem’

The funeral

‘It's your responsibility for the funeral’

Relating to family and friends

‘We might have been a bit snappy with family’


‘The word grief shouldn't have a past tense’

Remembering your baby

‘I don’t feel like I need to scatter them’

Pregnancy after loss

‘We’d lost another baby’

Insights and advice

‘Nothing was ever done to help us‘