The pregnancy

‘The afterbirth was over the neck of the womb’

Realising something was wrong

‘I went along and said I was worried’

Being told your baby has died

‘What does that actually mean?’

The time before giving birth

‘I wanted to disappear’

The birth

‘I still remember the sensation of him coming out’

Spending time with your baby

‘All I heard was babies crying all around me’

Being back at home

‘I had to face everything, pack everything away’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘I didn't want him to find a fault in her’

The funeral

‘The hospital said they would bury him’

Relating to family and friends

‘They'd all been part of the whole journey.


‘To speak to people going through the same thing helped me tremendously’

Remembering your baby

‘Did I just move on to putting my coping hat on?’

Pregnancy after loss

‘I didn’t enjoy my pregnancy at all’

Insights and advice

‘You’re in a club – it’s not a club you want to be a member of’