The pregnancy

‘The afterbirth was over the neck of the womb’

Realising something was wrong

‘She was still kicking even the day before she was born’

Being told your baby has died

‘She was all nonchalant, it was just not a big deal’

The time before giving birth

‘I just felt guilty and shocked’

The birth

‘She just looks like any other baby that was born’

Spending time with your baby

‘She gave us a selection of clothes Petal could have’

Being back at home

‘I just didn't want to be on my own’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘It’s something that Guy could do for his future brother or sister’

The funeral

‘I just couldn’t visualise it’

Relating to family and friends

‘People take it onto themselves as if it happened to them ’

Grieving

We’re very open with each other’

Remembering your baby

‘Anything up in the sky is pretty much linked with Petal’

Pregnancy after loss

‘Just thinking a lot about Mohammed’

Insights and advice

‘Think really about what is best for you’