The pregnancy

‘There were very few checks during pregnancy’

Realising something was wrong

‘It’s not going to work out, basically’

Being told your baby has died

‘I just wonder if I already knew’

The time before giving birth

‘This lady knows what we’re coming in for, why are we waiting so long?’

The birth

‘Adrenaline pumping through my system is all I remember’

Spending time with your baby

‘It should just be the three of us’

Being back at home

‘I wanted my husband to be with me all the time.’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘Every post-mortem is research’

The funeral

‘That’s not a day I ever want to do again’

Relating to family and friends

‘I just physically couldn’t even speak to get the words out to tell people’


‘To speak to people going through the same thing helped me tremendously’

Remembering your baby

‘It was a part of putting it behind us’

Pregnancy after loss

‘I can't imagine telling anyone now’

Insights and advice

I might get upset, but I’d be happy someone had asked about it