The pregnancy

‘We were under high-risk care because we were IVF’

Realising something was wrong

‘The baby is showing to be smaller than we’d expect at 20 weeks’

Being told your baby has died

‘Nothing was said’

The time before giving birth

‘No one tells you what you need for a dead baby’

The birth

‘I couldn’t believe the coldness’

Spending time with your baby

‘I just couldn’t bring myself to hold her’

Being back at home

‘I cant remember huge amounts about that time’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘It’s something that Guy could do for his future brother or sister’

The funeral

‘I just didn't want to let her go’

Relating to family and friends

‘At least you already have a child ’


‘I probably had about 10 or 12 sessions’

Remembering your baby

‘Those things didn’t come into my mind’

Pregnancy after loss

‘I suppose I relaxed a little bit more’

Insights and advice

‘It's not something that used to happen to your great grandparents’