The pregnancy

‘I mean we didn't think anything of it.’

Realising something was wrong

‘She was still kicking even the day before she was born’

Being told your baby has died

‘What does that actually mean?’

The time before giving birth

‘For a few hours we actually forgot what was happening to us’

The birth

‘It was a mixture of so much love and pride’

Spending time with your baby

‘The pictures I got from the hospital were absolutely lovely’

Being back at home

‘I had to face everything, pack everything away’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘It just didn’t make sense what happened’

The funeral

‘It's your responsibility for the funeral’

Relating to family and friends

‘Isn’t that amazing that a stranger would do that’


‘Me and Shazia have always worked as a team’

Remembering your baby

‘I've got to do something completely different’

Pregnancy after loss

‘I’d rather have these further tests done before we go through this again’

Insights and advice

I might get upset, but I’d be happy someone had asked about it