The pregnancy

‘The baby wasn’t as active as Claire had been’

Realising something was wrong

‘We realised that was Shazia’s heartbeat not the baby’s.’

Being told your baby has died

‘I just thought there's just something wrong with the equipment’

The time before giving birth

‘For a few hours we actually forgot what was happening to us’

The birth

‘I had no idea what to expect’

Spending time with your baby

‘They just left me’

Being back at home

‘Time was slow… the days were so long’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘We felt that a post-mortem would help us’

The funeral

‘I just couldn’t visualise it’

Relating to family and friends

‘I just wanted someone to listen to me’


‘My mind always went to our little chap’

Remembering your baby

‘Couldn’t imagine that she was down there’

Pregnancy after loss

‘We didn’t feel as happy about it’

Insights and advice

‘Reassure them what has happened is not their fault’