The pregnancy

‘There were very few checks during pregnancy’

Realising something was wrong

‘I posted a topic saying my baby’s not moved today can anyone relate?’

Being told your baby has died

They were obviously looking for his heartbeat’

The time before giving birth

‘We would need to wait until the baby was ready to be born’

The birth

‘They put Alexis in a bucket’

Spending time with your baby

‘You can keep him in the room overnight’

Being back at home

‘I just didn't want to be on my own’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘Every post-mortem is research’

The funeral

‘It wasn’t just for us, hopefully it was for him as well’

Relating to family and friends

‘I just wanted someone to listen to me’


‘You can’t resent that they’re not getting over it’

Remembering your baby

‘Did I just move on to putting my coping hat on?’

Pregnancy after loss

‘I feel on the surface of everything at the moment’

Insights and advice

‘This is when a network is critical’