The pregnancy

‘We genuinely thought, he’s just small. People have small babies’

Realising something was wrong

‘The scan showed there was no fetal heartbeat’

Being told your baby has died

They were obviously looking for his heartbeat’

The time before giving birth

‘I just felt guilty and shocked’

The birth

‘They put Alexis in a bucket’

Spending time with your baby

‘We felt calmer just to have him in the cot next to us’

Being back at home

‘You’ll need one another now more than ever’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘We needed to make sense of it’

The funeral

‘I just couldn’t visualise it’

Relating to family and friends

‘They don't know what happens to the couple afterwards’


‘Me and Shazia have always worked as a team’

Remembering your baby

‘Now I feel like I want to do something’

Pregnancy after loss

‘I suppose I relaxed a little bit more’

Insights and advice

‘Some people just don’t know how to handle death’