The pregnancy

‘I was poorly when I was pregnant with Petal’

Realising something was wrong

‘The baby is showing to be smaller than we’d expect at 20 weeks’

Being told your baby has died

‘She was all nonchalant, it was just not a big deal’

The time before giving birth

‘You don't really know what's happening’

The birth

‘I had a glance of his back view and then he was gone’

Spending time with your baby

‘In a way I felt like he was living’

Being back at home

‘You’ll need one another now more than ever’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘We didn't tell family members’

The funeral

‘It wasn’t just for us, hopefully it was for him as well’

Relating to family and friends

‘They'd all been part of the whole journey.

Grieving

We’re very open with each other’

Remembering your baby

‘What mother don’t know where her baby is?’

Pregnancy after loss

‘I took it a lot more seriously’

Insights and advice

‘No good that comes of it is enough’

First experiences

‘I’d like to look after a woman in labour having a stillbirth’

Facilities available to families

‘I don't hesitate to give them an extra appointment’

Clinical care

‘We need to listen to women more’

Training

‘Once you’ve said it you can’t take it back’

Talking to and supporting families

‘In a room with a woman in labour you can run out of things to say’

Support for clinicians

‘Reflection is very helpful’

Partners and extended family

‘We're there for the whole family’

Post-mortems/further investigations

‘You don’t want to create a false sense of hope’

Showing emotion

‘Over time it will become easier to cope with emotionally’

Insights and advice

‘Silence can isolate the woman’

Subsequent pregnancies

‘Studies are based on averages and people are not averages’

Attitudes towards stillbirth

‘Are they struggling emotionally to deal with the pregnancy?’