The pregnancy

‘Everything was new, it was all exciting’

Realising something was wrong

‘I posted a topic saying my baby’s not moved today can anyone relate?’

Being told your baby has died

‘They've given us the wrong scan’

The time before giving birth

‘For a few hours we actually forgot what was happening to us’

The birth

‘I had my eyes tightly closed’

Spending time with your baby

‘I could have sat there all night holding him ’

Being back at home

‘I’m here to get an outfit for my son who’s died’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘It’s something that Guy could do for his future brother or sister’

The funeral

‘That was extremely difficult actually seeing his coffin’

Relating to family and friends

‘It was as though I had never had her’


‘To speak to people going through the same thing helped me tremendously’

Remembering your baby

‘It was a part of putting it behind us’

Pregnancy after loss

‘It spoils you for life’

Insights and advice

‘We do all survive it’

First experiences

‘I was still not that proficient in using ultrasound’

Facilities available to families

‘It’s very important to get the level of memory making right for parents’

Clinical care

‘We need to listen to women more’


‘Sometimes you see and you learn what not to do’

Talking to and supporting families

‘It’s hard to know what the right thing to do is’

Support for clinicians

‘If we care for our staff they will give compassionate care’

Partners and extended family

‘It’s awful for fathers’

Post-mortems/further investigations

‘Sometimes women go I don’t want him touched’

Showing emotion

‘It’s different if it’s someone you’ve formed a relationship with’

Insights and advice

‘I would like to be more connected with the bereavement team’

Subsequent pregnancies

‘You know that will be a long nine months’

Attitudes towards stillbirth

‘It’s a bit like a dirty secret people don’t want to acknowledge’