The pregnancy

‘I was poorly when I was pregnant with Petal’

Realising something was wrong

‘That was the first day that everything switched’

Being told your baby has died

‘I remember a sound coming out of me.’

The time before giving birth

‘I felt like I didn't want to touch my bump’

The birth

‘I had my eyes tightly closed’

Spending time with your baby

‘The pictures I got from the hospital were absolutely lovely’

Being back at home

‘I had to face everything, pack everything away’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘We didn't tell family members’

The funeral

‘We didn’t take the boys’

Relating to family and friends

‘I just physically couldn’t even speak to get the words out to tell people’


‘Why wasn’t I worthy to take my son home?’

Remembering your baby

‘Wherever we go he’ll come with us’

Pregnancy after loss

‘Every time I went they gave me a hug.’

Insights and advice

‘I believe one day I’m going to see him again’

First experiences

‘We all cried in the room’

Facilities available to families

‘We cut a little locket of their hair’

Clinical care

‘We don’t always get it right’


‘I don’t think we were taught to manage women who suffered it’

Talking to and supporting families

‘Occasionally the grandparents want something but the parents don’t’

Support for clinicians

‘lt’s really helpful to talk to other students’

Partners and extended family

‘I make sure they know the support is for the family’

Post-mortems/further investigations

‘They need to explicitly know what we’re doing’

Showing emotion

‘Some families touch you more than others’

Insights and advice

‘There’s no one’s fault involved’

Subsequent pregnancies

‘I always ask if they've named the baby’

Attitudes towards stillbirth

‘We’re supposed to make sure this doesn’t happen’