The pregnancy

‘We were under high-risk care because we were IVF’

Realising something was wrong

‘He wasn’t moving and that was because he was poorly’

Being told your baby has died

‘I just cuddled her’

The time before giving birth

‘You don't really know what's happening’

The birth

‘I had my eyes tightly closed’

Spending time with your baby

‘It should just be the three of us’

Being back at home

‘I’ve blanked it out from my mind really’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘Every post-mortem is research’

The funeral

‘That was extremely difficult actually seeing his coffin’

Relating to family and friends

‘I just wanted someone to listen to me’


We’re very open with each other’

Remembering your baby

‘Just felt like the right thing for us to do’

Pregnancy after loss

‘It really tainted any idea I had of a normal pregnancy’

Insights and advice

‘I feel like probably I did something wrong’

First experiences

‘I’d like to look after a woman in labour having a stillbirth’

Facilities available to families

‘A specialist midwife is really important’

Clinical care

‘We need to listen to women more’


‘Medicine’s very much a kind of an apprenticeship’

Talking to and supporting families

‘The word ‘concern’ is a word that really resonates with people’

Support for clinicians

‘Reflection is very helpful’

Partners and extended family

‘It’s awful for fathers’

Post-mortems/further investigations

‘We are happy with whatever level of investigation a parent wants’

Showing emotion

‘Over time it will become easier to cope with emotionally’

Insights and advice

‘I would like to be more connected with the bereavement team’

Subsequent pregnancies

‘I always ask if they've named the baby’

Attitudes towards stillbirth

‘Everybody wants to give really good care to these families’