The pregnancy

‘Everything was new, it was all exciting’

Realising something was wrong

‘She goes: ‘Oh, where’s the heartbeat?’

Being told your baby has died

‘Nothing was said’

The time before giving birth

‘You feel like the woman’s going through it 10 times worse’

The birth

‘It was a mixture of so much love and pride’

Spending time with your baby

‘That was the last time we're going to be a family’

Being back at home

‘I want my old life back’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘We agreed for something called a visual post-mortem’

The funeral

‘I didn’t want anyone else touching him bar me’

Relating to family and friends

‘I couldn’t be around pregnant women’

Grieving

‘Me and Shazia have always worked as a team’

Remembering your baby

‘What mother don’t know where her baby is?’

Pregnancy after loss

‘There was no chance for me’

Insights and advice

‘People need to know how devastating it is for everyone involved’

First experiences

‘I’d like to look after a woman in labour having a stillbirth’

Facilities available to families

‘We don’t have a dedicated bereavement suite’

Clinical care

‘We need to listen to women more’

Training

‘I can remember being taught almost nothing about stillbirth’

Talking to and supporting families

‘Most of my women are not White British’

Support for clinicians

‘lt’s really helpful to talk to other students’

Partners and extended family

‘It’s awful for fathers’

Post-mortems/further investigations

‘They are working on doing MRIs on babies so they don’t have to cut them’

Showing emotion

‘They don’t need me to be dabbing tears away’

Insights and advice

‘I would like to be more connected with the bereavement team’

Subsequent pregnancies

‘I like my ladies to wait’

Attitudes towards stillbirth

‘Are they struggling emotionally to deal with the pregnancy?’