The pregnancy

‘Even till this day the pregnancy was brilliant’

Realising something was wrong

‘I went along and said I was worried’

Being told your baby has died

‘That’s when the news was broken’

The time before giving birth

‘No one tells you what you need for a dead baby’

The birth

‘Adrenaline pumping through my system is all I remember’

Spending time with your baby

‘That was the last time we're going to be a family’

Being back at home

‘I’m sorry that I couldn't bring our son home’

Deciding about a postmortem

‘I didn't want him to find a fault in her’

The funeral

‘It was the first time we'd ever set foot in a graveyard.’

Relating to family and friends

‘They don't know what happens to the couple afterwards’


‘I wouldn't even know what it really means to grieve’

Remembering your baby

‘If we pushed it under the carpet it wouldn’t be so real (to us)’

Pregnancy after loss

‘I can't imagine telling anyone now’

Insights and advice

‘Think really about what is best for you’

First experiences

‘I’ll never forget just tucking them all into bed’

Facilities available to families

‘We cut a little locket of their hair’

Clinical care

‘We don’t always get it right’


‘Learning on the job is the best way’

Talking to and supporting families

‘Most of my women are not White British’

Support for clinicians

‘lt’s really helpful to talk to other students’

Partners and extended family

‘I make sure they know the support is for the family’

Post-mortems/further investigations

‘They need to explicitly know what we’re doing’

Showing emotion

‘They don’t need me to be dabbing tears away’

Insights and advice

‘There’s no one’s fault involved’

Subsequent pregnancies

‘You know that will be a long nine months’

Attitudes towards stillbirth

‘Are they struggling emotionally to deal with the pregnancy?’